So, Alex just quit going to school about 3 weeks ago. He went a week and a half "faking it". He would leave the house about the designated time and just drive around until class was over. He has now officially been administratively withdrawn. We are scratching our heads and trying to figure out a why? and a what now?
Why?
1) He was doing well...is he actually afraid of success?
2) Was he just going through the motions and when papers and mid-terms came up...he was unprepared and to avoid the confrontation just quit going to class?
3) Was getting his part time job at Hardee's that he started the day before he quit going to class too much?
4) Is he just not good at school?
5) Is he just a lazy SOB?
6) Is his video/computer addiction causing him to be unsuccessful?
7) Does he just not give a damn?
8) Do we put too much pressure on him?
9) All of the above
10) None of the above
What now?
That one is a bit easier...he has bills to pay now that he has chosen to be an adult and join the working world and not the student world.
We are actually easy on him....in exchange for room and board and cell phone and use of a car we pay for he...he pays $100/ week plus an extra $100/month for his car insurance. That is one hell of a deal, considering the way we keep our pantry stocked and the fact that once he starts paying regularly he can move out of the guest room and have his own bedroom and bathroom in the basement...almost a full apartment.
BUT THE KID WON'T GET OFF HIS ASS TO LOOK FOR A JOB WITH ENOUGH HOURS TO PAY HIS BILLS.
His job at Hardee's is only 3 days a week...about 18 hours at min wage. Perfect for a college student...$200 every 2 weeks for gas and spending money and a bit to save for next semesters books....but not enough to pay the above bills...much less what it would cost to live in real life!
Any suggestions appreciated!
